In any boyfriend/girlfriend relationship it’s important to be friends first otherwise it could turn into a strictly business relationship.
You hear people all the time say “I’m married/in a relationship with my best friend.” Honestly, I never even thought this was possible, but it makes perfect sense. I’ve never fully understood this until now-many previous relationships were just rushed into, without thinking, do I really like this person as a friend also, could they be a friend, and will they be a friend further down the road.
I’ve also come to find that being in a relationship with someone that is one of your best friends makes life and the relationship a lot more enjoyable-this just seems easier and seamless. My advice would be to take it slow in the beginning, because even if you like this person in a relationship kind of way, I think if you’re not friends first, when your relationship needs help and attention it’s easier to stray away from because there isn’t that sense of also having a friend.
I was a relationship friend virgin until recently, and I have to say that from this experience there has been a night and day kind of feeling about him and us-and it’s all good. Our relationship aside, I consider him one of my closest friends, and I know it sounds crazy but it just feels like because of that friendship being in place I feel closer and safer with him.
So, be friends first, and let the relationship portion come naturally-it’ll be more fulfilling that way, and although no relationship is perfect, being friends seems to make things deeper and easier.
