Going the Distance

Is chasing your dreams more important than staying put to be with the one you love? With neither fancying the idea of a long distance relationship, the question remains: the fact that the circumstances are somewhat not ideal, but the love for each other is very strong, one of the parties wants to work and live in a beautiful place but the other cannot leave, what should they do?

The one who can't leave gives his full support to her for having dreams and wanting to fulfill them. He doesn't want her to ever regret not having chased her dreams, but is the first to admit that it would be hard if she left, he would be really devastated. Long distance for 2 years is really the maximum but any longer and it really would be all over. From her perspective staying seems the easiest choice, but is she going to regret not chasing her dreams. Something she has always wanted to do since she was very young. Is staying put the right thing for her to do. Is he asking too much for her to stay? They are starting a business together, still very young so they will have lots of contact with each other - would a long distance even work....

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The Perfect Complement

A dear friend of mine and I were talking about relationships in general-and she brought up this point, which I thought was rather groundbreaking at the time.  I’m sure you’ve heard the cliché “you complete me,” which, yes is nice, but does anyone really understand what that means?  In talking with my friend, she brought up the very valid point that no one is perfect.  So, if none of us are perfect, and we are hoping for that other person that makes us perfect, aren’t we all just entering into a relationship death sentence?

It is contradictory to think that we can become perfect when this person is a part of our lives.  We are all individuals, and even throughout a relationship should maintain that sense of individuality, so as to not become this person we never wanted to be.

The way we should be approaching our relationships is then quite simple, and it’s all about having a different mindset.  Instead of “you complete me,” we should be thinking, “you complement me.”  With this new mindset, you have to keep in mind that together you and your partner are better, you are not perfect, as individuals, or together-again, no one is.

But with the attitude that your partner complements you, you then have the confidence in knowing that with them you are a better person.  I know in our relationship, my better half does compliment me-he’s everything that I’m not, but will still admit to not being perfect.

I think a good deal of balance and luck come in finding that person that happens to complement you, and make you a better, stronger, wiser person.